What I learned at Greenwood

When I first sat down to write what is now my customary post-show “what I learned” blog post, I admit that I was a little stuck at first. On paper it would be pretty easy to be disappointed with how Greenwood went. Worst dressage score ever, worst stadium ever, and worst total score ever. It wasn’t an event that anyone would like to have in the middle of their fall season, two weeks before Area Championships.


I kind of wanted to just sweep it under the rug, shrug it off, and pretend it didn’t happen. But the more I thought about it the more I realized that I actually learned quite a lot about myself and my horse in “failure”, if you want to call it that. And the things that I came up with as learning points were so much BIGGER.


I learned that even when all else seems like a loss, Henry will still come through on cross country. He gets braver and smarter and more clever with every show. Of course, changes for the better in some areas can sometimes mean changes for the worse in others. He’s not a machine and neither am I. That’s what makes this sport so ridiculously hard – it’s three very different phases that ask completely different things of the horse and rider. Growing pains are to be expected, I suppose, and Rome wasn’t built in a day. I’m not William Fox-Pitt and Henry’s not Ballynoe Castle; we’re just doing the best we can. It’s okay if sometimes our best just isn’t that great.


What I also realized, after I moved past those silly little feelings of failure, was that I still had a blast. I crossed the finish line after XC smiling from ear to ear, every bit as “high” as I always am after running cross country with Henry. It’s such a joy to be galloping and jumping a horse that absolutely loves his job, it brings me a level of bliss that nothing else can. And at the end of the day, that’s what it’s all about isn’t it? I spend my life scrimping and saving and eating a lot of Ramen to afford this sport, and not because I get ribbons and glory in return. I do it because of the sheer joy the horse and the sport give me, and that joy certainly does not hinge on a score or ribbon. A score does not define us, so why was I letting it? It tells you nothing about my or Henry’s story. It’s just not a big deal.


I also learned that even the worst day at a horse show still isn’t a bad day at all. Lauren wrote about this a while back in her post Attitude is a Choice, with the poignant phrase “Isn’t it a luxury to have a bad horse show?”. It absolutely is. Spending the weekend at a beautiful facility on the back of a horse just can’t possibly be that bad, no matter how it ends. If the worst thing happening in my life at the moment is a bad horse show, things are going pretty darn well.

late night bum scratches

Either I’m getting better about this whole attitude thing or the loss of my mom in August really highlighted what’s important vs what isn’t, but my perspective has changed. A year or so ago a show like this would have definitely spurred a few private tears and I’d have felt pretty defeated/humiliated, but this time I was still all smiles on the way home. Here I am, four days later, still smiling. I feel lucky to be able to do this at all, even when I do it badly, and I still feel nothing but euphoria when we cross the finish. At the end of the day, the circumstances don’t matter. Nothing is permanent, for better or for worse… all you can do is enjoy the ride.

20 thoughts on “What I learned at Greenwood

  1. In the words of Into the Woods (play not movie)

    Oh. if life were made of moments,
    Even now and then a bad one-!
    But if life were only moments,
    Then you’d never know you had one.


    Let the moment go…
    Don’t forget it for a moment, though.
    Just remembering you’ve had an “and”,
    When you’re back to “or”,
    Makes the “or” mean more
    Than it did before.

    That is to say, you have to have the bads and downs to have the good and ups and highs. I really appreciate this post. GOOD JOB!

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  2. We are lucky to be doing any of this at all. There’s no point in turning such a marvelous privilege into a cross to bear. Great post!


  3. Great post – and that’s a great way to think about it. Even when I want to be grumpy and mad because of a bad show, I can’t help but smile at my pony and that is a luxury that ribbons or bad riding won’t change.

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  4. Loss can certainly put a different perspective on things. Unless Greenwood repeats itself, I wouldn’t worry about it. We all have days that we want to give the middle finger…now you know what it looks like when Henry does.


  5. I love this post. And I like Lauren’s reminder too that even bad shows are luxuries.. talk about perspective.

    And as far as WFP and Ballynoe Castle.. well- they definitely have their off days too. We’re all human (er, or horses..).


  6. This was SO well said, this is an excellent perspective and a good reminder for all of us that we are really lucky to be there even if it’s a “bad” show. There is no way to describe to a non-horse person how amazing that feeling is, bliss and joy come close to it though. We all know that feeling and like you said, it’s why we scrimp and save everywhere else to keep doing this.


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